Tuesday, November 16, 2010

The Momma's boy

Aidan is entering a new emotional stage of his life. The anxiety stage. It started off innocently enough... he would prefer me to somebody else. No big deal, right? Then it escalated to him becoming nervous when we were at somebody else's home. Now it's full blown anxiety, where he does not like to be around other people, even if he knows them. He gets very nervous in different places and he doesn't even want a stranger to hold him in our own home!

I feel so horrible for him. He will eventually get comfortable with a new situation after crying about it for a few minutes. He'll start to play with the other babies and crawl around to explore his new surroundings. Then, he'll suddenly just start to cry again. He'll crawl towards me extremely upset and yank on my pants until I pick him up.

I really don't know what to do. I know it's a phase. I know almost all children experience something like this. It's just so unlike his personality. This is a very happy little boy who loved everyone! Now he won't even let our good friends hold him!

In a month's time we will be headed up to Ohio to visit family for the holidays. I will be flying solo with him and I'm all ready stressing out about it. After one of our last solo flights, I'm less than thrilled about flying. Especially now that he can crawl and pull up on things. I'm sure he is not going to want to sit still in my lap for a 3+ hour flight.

But, I think I might lose it when we reach our final destination and he gets upset because we are in a new environment. I hate the thought of him being scared of his own grandparents, aunts, uncles and cousins!

I know that this too shall pass, just as quickly as it started. But, in the meantime, do you have any advice for me?


  1. It's TOTALLY normal. A lot of parents and kids I know have gone through this phase and this, too, shall pass. :) N hasn't reached it yet but we might be at a *slight* advantage since she goes to daycare. I just got my weekly baby email from one of the parenting sites and it was all about separation anxiety - I'll fwd it to you!

  2. Oh, I feel for you and Aidan. It's hard to watch your baby be anxious. It sounds like you're doing everything I would, not pushing, letting him explore when he's ready. Hopefully, people can be understanding and not try to be to forward with him- let him come to them and not get their feelings hurt. I'll send some prayers for your flight!

  3. I can totally relate! Both Molly and Abby were the same way at some point and it was always so hard to go home to Ohio and have them not want to be held by grandparents or other family members. The only bits of advice I can give are to give a advance warning to the family so they know what to expect. Also, don't try to force him into someone's arms. Let him warm up to the situation and hopefully, after a little time, he will feel ok with being held by other people. Good luck!!!


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