I'm linking up with Shell today....
There's been an idea being tossed around this house lately. Actually, it's one that we've been back and forth on for a few months now. That idea would be sending Aidan to a Mother's Day Our program starting in September. It'd be for five hours a day, two days a week.
The program would start right before Baby Number Two makes his or her appearance into the world. It would give me a chance to bond with our new baby, catch up on grocery shopping and things around the house, guarantee me a much needed twice weekly nap and probably be good for the overall environment in our home. (Nobody wants Mommy to go insane when she's learning to adjust to two kids under the age of two, right?) Plus, it will give Aidan the opportunity to make new friends, learn a little bit of Spanish, and give him the chance to be in a completely different environment without his parents. He'll even have three little friends at the same program, one of whom will be in the same small class as he is.
Sounds great, right?
See, what I listed above... those are all Jason's reasons why we SHOULD send Aidan to a Mother's Day Out Program. He wants me to have the break from out little man. He wants me to have one on one time with baby number one. He does NOT want me to go crazy!
But me? I can't bear the thought sending my little man away for such long periods of time. It will be so close to the arrival of our new baby. On top of that, he will be in a new room (the baby will have his nursery and crib) with a new toddler bed.So many changes will be happening. I don't want him to connect the new baby being born with him being abandoned. So, to suddenly drop him off somewhere new and to leave him there?
I don't think so!
Atleast, not yet.
I understand the pros. I do.
I know that I'm going to need that nap. And of course I want the chance to bond one-on-one, uninterrupted with our new baby. But, the thought of so much change happening so quickly to Aidan really has me worried. I want something to remain constant in his life. He will be barely 19 months when the baby is born. And that's a lot to comprehend at such a young age.
But, when you're a SAHM, you're used to feeling like you have to do it all. That you are obligated to do it all. And, of course, we can't. None of us have perfect children, houses, styled hair, clothes and lives. We all have struggles. We all have dirty dishes in the sink and a pile of clothes that needs to be folded (or in my case, a basket of clothes that needs to be put away- my least favorite part of laundry!). We are all human. We can't do everything.
And the fact that Jason realizes that, that he knows I'll need a breather... well, it's wonderful! (He even suggested a few weeks ago that we hire a maid to come and clean a few times a month once the new baby is here, since I won't have as much time to keep the house as clean as usual. Love. That. Man!)
What do you think? Should we do it? Is Jason right? Will I need this time? Or am I right? Is Aidan too young? Will he feel abandoned?
I'd love to know your thoughts. :)
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